Showing posts with label Diet and exercise. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Diet and exercise. Show all posts

Monday, April 19, 2010

How I Became a Class Project

Life's like that, right? You're walking along and WHAP! you hit a low tree limb, a surprise that jolts you.

That's what happened to me with my tai chi class. I signed up thinking it would be a nice change. "Tai chi" means "peaceful energy." I could use a bit of peacefulness in my soul.

Of course, I was running late for the first class. We meet from 7 a.m. to 8 a.m., so getting out of bed and dressed so early is new for me. Lately, we've turned into night owls with David's store hours. I took a spot in the back. The class was doing warm up exercises. Okay, fine, got that. Then the "instructor" said, "Now we'll do tai chi."

Everyone turned around and stared at me.

Huh?

Turns out, this particular group has been meeting together for six or seven years. The only other newbie has been attending for two years. And the "instructor" is a class participant. The original instructor had to give up teaching the class, so the participants decided to keep meeting and to take places leading the sessions.

Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb. But my classmates were just lovely. They explained what we were doing. They take turns correcting me. They brought me handouts on the second session. I might be the youngest person in the class; I'm certainly one of the youngest. Suddenly, I feel like I have "parents" again. Especially when we finish the session and walk together to Whole Foods for breakfast.

I went for the peaceful energy. I think I'll keep going for the camaraderie. I'm happy to be their class project.

How about you? Ever get hit by a low hanging limb with something you didn't see coming? And did you say to yourself, "What a lucky dog I am?"

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Beware the Chair



"All I do all day is write and eat donuts," said Janet Evanovich. I met her at SleuthFest a few years ago, and she whispered this as an aside while we were having our pictures taken.

Sounded pretty good to me. At least at the time.

Now...not so much.

More and more I'm realizing that I live two lives: the real and active one, AND the one in my head. That's cool most days. But I was trying on cocktail dresses for a special event, and when I saw the size label, I freaked. I mean, I had a total meltdown.

Unfortunately, that meltdown didn't do anything about all the fat I've collected.

I was so upset that I literally had an anxiety attack. The saleswoman looked at me curiously. "Anything wrong?"

You betcha. My saleswoman was six feet tall, twenty years old, and had the frame of a whippet after being starved for a month. I mean, if she weighed 90 pounds, it was after a Thanksgiving day feast. I, on the other hand, was feeling positively porky.

Under Miss Thin's watchful gaze, I struggled in and out of the fancy dresses. Believe me, there's a reason the stars have stylists. There's no way you can get those outfits on and off without help. You have to hold them up around the boobs to pull on the zipper. And for the zipper to meet, you need both hands, which leaves you with ... free falling hoo-has.

I wiggled into one dress. Hated it. Then another. Hated it, too. I started to whimper. I needed massive help with Dress #5, so I asked my husband David to yank on the zipper. And he did. He also caught an inch of the tender flesh under my arm in the teeth. He was apologizing, I was crying, and the saleswoman was...nonplussed. I bet she sees stuff like this happen all the time. Really I do.

"I want to go home!" I cried.

"Okay, okay, calm down," David said. "How about if we go get something to eat?"

"I am never EVER eating again. In my life! EVER!" With that, I pulled on my own clothes (which I could do without any help at all) and ran out of the dressing room.

Okay, I didn't give up on eating. I am watching my weight. I joined a gym. (I had been going to exercise classes before, but for some reason or another, they were doing one of those silly spring break things. I don't need a "we take frequent breaks" sort of exercise place. Not at this point in my life. I need an "anytime you strike up the mood to break a sweat, there's a place to go" sort of exercise place.)

Then I went to a lovely little shop in Vienna (Virginia) called Trousseau, and they helped me with the latest and greatest slimming undies. (Sausage casing has always gotten a bad wrap, IMHO.) At Trousseau, they cheered me up immeasurably by telling me about a fashion show in New York where a model got stuck in a Spanx-type undergarment. Evidently, the whole fashion show came to a screeching halt. Everyone was waiting for her to do her strut down the catwalk. But she didn't come out. Finally, some bright spark went back into the dressing rooms and rescued the poor girl.

Now I'm in love with the crew at Trousseau. Kisses!

And David? He went back to Saks Fifth Avenue and bought all the dresses for me that he liked. He even bought me a pair of Jimmy Choo shoes to go with. What a trooper. That's one of the reasons I love him. Here's a photo of my ensemble:



Oh, and there's more. With all due respect to Janet--I mean, I love her writing and her characters and gush, gush--I do not want to live a life of writing and donuts alone. At my last zumba class, I learned we had only done 5,400 steps. Yeah, and I worked my proverbial butt off. It takes 10,000 steps daily to stop weight creep. So I plan to get up and away from the computer screen more often. I may start setting an alarm clock to remind me. Seems that recently medical experts are advising the same.

All day long, I plot and plan how to kill people on paper. Little did I know, I was probably doing myself in as well. I aim to get my butt outta the chair and into the fresh air a little more.

How about you? Did you ever have a fashion emergency? A health wake-up call?

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Why the Gym Won

Several people seemed surprised that I chose the gym over writing my blog last week. Not too long ago I would have agreed. Most of my life I was a washout at anything athletic. I almost flunked bowling in college.

I go to a woman’s gym and when I joined it, I thought I would probably end up going a few times and that would be it. That was fifteen years ago and if anything I go more often now. During the first few months I was a member, I asked a fitness trainer how she got herself to keep working out. She didn’t really have an answer, but I figured out one myself. Very simply going to the gym makes me feel good. It ups my cheerfulness, and gives me energy. The routines in the cardio class sharpen my brain. Yoga centers me and helps keep my spine supple. Indoor cycling and kick boxing are always a physical challenge. The weights and floor exercises make me feel stronger.

And exercise helps my writing. When I get stuck all it takes is a few minutes in a cycling class and ideas start flowing. I always keep some paper and a pen in my gym bag for the inspired ideas that so often show up.

Since I am spending so much time sitting in front of a computer or sitting and crocheting as I rush to finish the fourth crochet mystery, the gym offers a balance. And there is the fun aspect. Yes, I have fun at the gym. When the music is good and my endorphins are pumping and the steps all flow like dancing, it’s fun. And the good feeling lasts all day. I’m posting this late on Friday, so I won’t have to make the choice of writing versus cardio dancing again. I already know what would win.

Friday, August 15, 2008

French Women DO Get Fat

By Kathryn Lilley

The headline this week read: “French paradox a diet myth.”

It turns out that French women (and men) are struggling with a steep rise in obesity rates.

I pause now to snort out a supersized American, “Hah!”
Let me repeat that:
Hah!

It’s not that I’m happy that my Liberty sisters across the Atlantic have had to join us in the Battle of the Bulge.

It’s just that I’ve been haunted over the years by too many well-meaning people who have cheerfully handed me that book: You know the oneFrench Women Don’t Get Fat.

Just eat like the French and you’ll be fat free, the book promises. Eat three meals a day, walk everywhere, and take the stairs instead of the elevator. Oh, and drink lots of red wine, and don’t forget to indulge in your favorite foods every once in a while.


Hell, that’s what I thought I was doing! Okay, maybe I was over-overindulging in my fave foods (especially Chubby Hubby by B&J). But could the whole thing really be this simple?

Evidently not, at least if you measure by the recent results of the French population. Over time they have evidently become a lot more like us: eating meals on the run, consuming fast food—and getting fatter.

The average size of a real French woman, studies suggest, is likely to be on the surplus-side of size twelve (Okay, that’s still smaller than the average American’s size 14. But the point is, they’re catching up).

I hear the French government is fighting back by proposing anti-obesity measures and promoting public ad campaigns that exhort our Gallic guys and gals to take the stairs. We’ll see if it helps them return to the Land of the Annoyingly Thin.

But whatever happens to their waistlines over there, just don’t anyone write a book about it. And if you do, don’t hand it to me, okay? Je suis fini with French diets, but I'm keeping the french fries, thank you very much.

Kathryn Lilley is a writer and former journalist who lives in Southern California. She's currently on the Okinawa diet and dreaming about éclairs and pain perdu.

Friday, January 18, 2008

Mirror, mirror...


It’s official. I’ve finished the second draft of A KILLER WORKOUT, which frees me up to start working on the next book in the Fat City Mysteries. The working title is FINAL CUT.

The mystery of FINAL CUT will involve plastic surgery (and murder, natch).

So I’ve already started researching the world of cosmetic procedures. I should also mention that, as a card-carrying resident of LA LA Land, I have already had “a bit of” cosmetic work done. Several bits of work, in fact.

All of which should prepare me to better understand some things I’m learning about life under the beauty knife:

According to the Consumer Guide to Plastic Surgery ™, the top ten plastic surgery operations in 2006 (for women) were:
Breast Enhancement
Nose job
Liposuction
Eyelid surgery
Tummy tuck

For men, nose reshaping was number one, hair transplants were in the top three, and breast reductions in the top five.

Women had 9.9 million cosmetic procedures in 2006, a number that jumped 55 per cent from the year 2000 to 2006. We spent more than two billion dollars on Botox treatments. Two billion!

Those numbers don’t really surprise me. In Los Angeles, we practically have a botox spa on every corner.

It’s a fascinating world to explore for the new book—our obsession with youth, plus our willingness to pay big bucks and risk multiple operations to hang onto it.

How about you? Are you okay with the idea of having cosmetic surgery? Against it? Myself, I was always against it.

Until the day I saw the first crow’s feet in the mirror.


Breaking news!

Join us for a fun panel, "Sassy Sleuths," on Saturday, January 19, 3 - 5 PM
Vroman’s Bookstore 695 E. Colorado Blvd.Pasadena, CA 91101
Featuring: Sisters in Crime/Los Angeles Author Members with Patricia Smiley, Harley Jane Kozak, Sue Ann Jaffarian, Kathryn Lilley; Moderator G.B. Pool.

Friday, January 11, 2008

Exercising my angst


Like Linda, I'm on a deadline too! Plus, I gave a workshop this evening to some writers at a wonderful independent bookstore in Westwood, called The Mystery Bookstore. Ooh, it's such a bizzy bizzy time these days.

Right now I'm finishing up the second draft of A KILLER WORKOUT, working on the part of the book that’s always toughest for me—the diet and exercise tips that go in the front of each chapter.

The tips are challenging because I am not an exercise enthusiast, but I have to get inside the head of someone who is.

To accomplish that, I’ve been doing a lot of research about fitness, and I've learned a few new things along the way. I’ve learned enough, in fact, to make me renew my commitment to getting regular exercise in 2008.

Among my discoveries:

Women who exercise more than two hours per week can drastically reduce their risk of sudden cardiac arrest.
Yoga massages your inner organs, and lubricates your joints. It can even reduce chronic pain.
Smoking makes your skin wrinkle prematurely.
The tiny acai berry from the Amazon rainforest may be nature’s most perfect food.
Women who exercise regularly have much more sex than women who don’t. (Women who don't exercise think about sex more, but don't get as much.)
People rate you as more attractive when they think that you exercise.
You can build stronger muscles by simply visualizing yourself doing exercise.

I'm hoping that I'll start acting on all this new information, by starting the day with an acai-berry shake, taking up yoga, and making sure I get aerobic exercise several times a week. If nothing else, I should be able to visualize myself a set of six-pack abs while lying on the couch.

I do get feedback from some readers that the tips in DYING TO BE THIN helped them in some small way, by providing information and framing the message of getting and staying fit.

So that makes it all worthwhile. Who knows, I might even brush the cobwebs off my gym card and venture inside for a Spinning class.

But first, I think I need to attend a few meetings of Couch Potatoes Anonymous, just to recover from my very inactive holiday season...anyone got their number?

Friday, December 28, 2007

Happy New Year's resolutions


For 2008, I have come up with some New Year’s resolutions.

I hereby vow that, starting on January first:

I will not launch a diet for five days, followed by three days of rationalization for over-eating, followed by 357 days of diet-memory amnesia.
I will not launch a five-day exercise regimen, followed by three days of rationalization for why I cannot exercise, followed by 357 days of exercise-memory amnesia.
I will not take a five-day battery of vitamins and mineral supplements, followed by three days of forgetting to take most of the pills, followed by 357 days of rationalizing that my vitamin-fortified milk will pick up most of the nutrition-gap.
I will not buy diet and cook books to kick-start my New Year’s resolutions, followed by relegating said books into a kitchen cupboard, followed by banishing them to the cobwebbed corners of the library, followed by dumping them in an end-of-year donation to Goodwill.
I will not buy pants a size too small as “inspiration,” followed by the bleak realization that I am not making progress toward a better fit, followed by 357 days of “disappearing” the offending pants into the depths of my closet, never to be seen again.


Do these resolutions sound too negative? Okay, here are some positive ones:

I will pay attention to hunger signals, and eat only after my stomach growls.
I will move my body each day, enough to feel my blood pumping through my cardiovascular system at a measurable rate.
I will incorporate three servings of high-nutrition vegetables and/or fruit into my daily intake.
I will spend money only on the clothes that make me feel fabulous, whatever size—and I will wear them often. I will wear them too often, in fact.

What about you? Do you have any New Year’s resolutions, negative or positive? Any that you make each January, and then abandon?

Friday, November 30, 2007

Stomping out your story killers




So this week, instead of blogging about what I’ve been consuming (aka Diet and Exercise), I want to blog about what’s been consuming me.

And recently, I’ve been consumed by all things associated with writing.

No surprise there: today, Friday November 30th, 2007, is Deadline Day for the first draft of A KILLER WORKOUT, the Number Two Book in the Fat City Mysteries.

Not to bury the lead, but I already pressed the Send button that emailed the first draft of A KILLER WORKOUT to my editor in NY. But despite having met that milestone, so far there’s been no letup in my writing focus.

This is because, during the brief hiatus that I have between submitting First Draft and receiving Editor’s Notes, I must give presentations about writing to audiences in large southwestern states. (Does everyone know how large southwestern states really are? I once drove across the country. When I hit Texas, I reported home for several nights in a row, "I'm still in Texas." I grew up hanging around the puny state-doms of New England. So, really—I never knew what Panhandle states could be like, size-wise).
And like a fool, I'm driving to these appearances next week. So if you don't hear anything from me for a couple of weeks, I'm probably still in Texas.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what I should say to these good folks in the southern-westest states about the writing process.

Basically, it’s this:

Don’t kill your story.
What does that mean, exactly? The answer depends on where you are on the writing continuum.An advanced writer on the continuum would be Shakespeare, (He’s a safe choice: no one will throw Schadenfreude darts his way, because he’s been dead for just under four-hundred years. And because he’s Shakespeare, dammit).
A less-advanced writer on the continuum would be someone who has written all her life, but mostly on bits of scrap paper. Personally, I come from a long line of paper-scrap writers.
For the less-advanced writers on the continuum, I have some suggestions:

Join a writing critique group

When you think you’re done with your draft, keep rewriting.

Avoid most adverbs at all costs.

Don’t have your main character’s description occur by virtue of gazing into a mirror.

Batch and separate different characters’ actions by separating them with paragraph breaks.

Vary your sentence structure. Repeated structures are boring.

When a beta reader explains, shyly, that a particular section didn’t work for her, nod politely and make a note. If you don’t agree with the feedback, nod and pretend to take a note. Don’t launch into an impassioned, tortured explanation of why this nonworking section must remain in your draft.

Be on the lookout for your personal “writing tic.” Every writer has a writing tic. Before I was published, my writing tic was to overuse dashes, until a much more experienced author pointed it out. I was—to put it mildly—the Queen of Dashes.

Have some kind of conflict on every page.

Don’t over-describe every action of your main character. We really don’t need to know that your heroine reached for her purse, pulled out her wallet, extracted her credit card, put the card back into her wallet, put the wallet back into her purse, zipped up her purse, slung the purse strap onto her shoulder, put her hand on the doorknob…

See what I mean?

These things are on my mind this morning because I’m preparing a workshop called “Stomping out your storykillers.” I’m looking forward to talking to other writers about the writing journey.

The one thing I’m not going to do is what some masters of writing do (I call them the Grand Pooh-Bahs), which is to lean back at the beginning of a talk or seminar and ask the assembled audience why they want to write. The only acceptable answer, ultimately, is this: a person writes because he or she must write.

And I say to that—Bull Puckey!

Knowing you “have” to write is like knowing you have to diet to stay thin: easy to know, hard to do.

It is hard to write every single day, come hell or high water. I write every day in the wee hours of the morning. (I just checked my computer clock; it’s 4:07 AM, Pacific Time). The only days I missed writing over the past two years was 1) when I was stuck in an airplane all day, thanks to Delta Airlines. (I can’t write in an airplane. If I could convince my husband to let us travel first class, that might change), and 2) when I was projectile-vomiting from a bout of stomach flu.

Anyway, I’m having a lot of fun thinking about writing this morning, now that the draft is done and I don’t have to be obsessed with doing it for the moment.

So what are your personal writing tics, or your least favorite ones in famous writers? I’d love to hear about them, just so that I’ll feel better about my own tics.

Write on!

Friday, November 23, 2007

After the Thanksgiving feast: now what?


Okay, we have eaten.

Odds are, we have overeaten.

So, what now?

If history is any judge, most of us will now segue into a syndrome known as “Holiday eating fugue.”

Holiday-eating-fugue syndrome, aka HEF, is characterized by the willful suspension of any recognition of the basic dietary law of the universe, which is: calories in taken must be balanced against calories expended.

When this law is not observed, weight gain ensues.

Some relevant facts:

Most people consume more than 3,000 calories on Thanksgiving Day.

The average 150-pound person burns approximately 325 calories in 90 minutes of shopping—a popular activity the day after Thanksgiving, which is what retailers refer to as Black Friday. This means that the average person would have to shop for dang-near the whole day on Black Friday, just to make up for the damage inflicted on Gobbler Thursday.

Historically, attendance at Weight Watchers meetings falls off at Thanksgiving, and doesn’t pick up again until after New Year’s Day. Whereupon, the membership drive becomes a Joining Jubilee.

The average American gains a pound between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day. (Actually, that’s good news. Most people assume that the average American gains more like eight pounds between the holidays.)

Gym memberships, which languish during the holidays, go into RRP mode (Rabid Renewal Period) post-January 1.

What to do?

Here are some things you can try to ward off the HEF blues:

· Put the one-day feast-fest into perspective. No matter how much you ate on Thanksgiving, it’s not going to impact your long-term weight journey—if you get right back on the healthy eating and exercise horse.

· Get physical. One of the major causes of weight gain during the holidays is lack of activity. Time is spent doing holiday errands, which makes us more tired, less motivated, and not wanting to stick to our routine.

· Don’t “diet.” Don’t launch an overly restrictive program during this period. Stick to your tried-and-true eating plan.

· Be choosy about your treats. Those siren sweets hang out on every rock during the holiday months. Go ahead, enjoy. But be selective! And don’t think the right approach is to replace your high fat, high calorie faves with lowfat substitutes. A teaspoon of real butter on a roll is more satisfying than a ton of fake buttercrap.

Whine of the week: The Biggest Loser loses Kae

Why, oh why did Kae get voted off The Biggest Loser?
Okay, I guess I know why: she didn’t lose quite as much as the others in a single week’s measurement, and the other contestants were afraid of her. But I think the algorithm of The Biggest Loser’s “win number” should factor in the weekly loss in the greater context of overall fat reduction and health improvement. Otherwise, it underscores a very unhealthy emphasis on daily progress on the scales, rather than the weight loss journey.

In fact, while we’re fantasy-tweaking the show, let’s make the weekly “win” based on an overall health index that includes weight loss, fat loss, and the other major barometers of health improvement. That would vault The Biggest Loser into the next (and needed) level—a true reflection of the contestant’s overall health improvement. You could “reveal” a health index score each week, just as dramatically as the number on the scale.

Because after all, weight is just a number.

And what audiences really want is to see the true winners win. And that’s what Kae is, a winner.
From the feedback I’m reading, I think that The Biggest Loser is going to have to kick it up a notch in this manner to maintain its popularity with viewers.
And yeah, I know: "It's only reality TV, Kathryn. Why are you wasting your time watching it?"
Sorry, but it's my guilty pleasure. As someone who graduated from a couple of diet boot-camp programs (you'll see fictionalized shades of those experiences in DYING TO BE THIN, and next year's A KILLER WORKOUT), I can't help rooting for the competitors, like a die-hard Red Sox fan during the World Series!
You can see The Biggest Loser's web site here at:

http://www.nbc.com/The_Biggest_Loser/episodes/

Friday, November 9, 2007

Cozying up to Killer Hobbies: Part Two


First, a note to all my friends…

My web site, http://www.kathrynlilley.com/, was “down” earlier this week, due to some strange gremlin that infected the cyber layer of the atmosphere. My poor beleaguered webmaster tried to explain the whole thing to me. But I hear technical jargon the way a dog hears reproachful instructions; it’s all “Blah, blah, blah.”

Anyway, if the web site is down when you try to navigate to it, keep trying. I believe the god of cyberspace has finally stopped throwing thunderbolts my way.

Feedback about Killer Hobbies

I got feedback from last week’s question about what people like/don’t like about cozy mysteries that are set around a hobby theme.

Boy, did I get feedback.

The good news

Huzzah! People love hobby-oriented mystery series! Judging from the emails and chat, they are wildly popular.

The also-good news (but not for everyone)

Pity the poor hobby mystery-ist who commits any of the following sins:

· Overloads the book with hobby content, at the expense of a good story
· “Top loads” the book with too much information, like all-you-never-wanted-to-know about music boxes.
· Laces the tale with hobby jargon that the nonhobbyist can't understand,
· Bores the reader (this, I might add, is a global sin that is not unique to hobby-oriented mysteries).

Some quotes from the blog-o-sphere

A big THANK YOU to everyone who took the time to reply to my request for feedback! Here are some samples:

“I find that my reading needs are for de-stressing and relaxation, as well as pleasure. I (enjoy) well-written cozies. [I like…Linda O'Johnstons'-- she writes about a wide variety of animal pets [canines, felines, birds, ferrets, & iguana...so far],...want to read more of hers as well as a couple other authors' work I've been fortunate enough to read...]. I have a Monica Ferris book awaiting me. I look forward to another .”

“…I like Monica Ferris' and Maggie Sefton's books set in yarn/embroidery supplies shops, but it may be the manager aspects of running the shop is even more interesting than the craft.”

“…if I care about the protagonist, I enjoy reading about the things that are important in her (or his) life. I like Spenser's little descriptions of how he whips up a little omelet, for instance; and also enjoy Susan's questioning whether they can really mean you have to stir something "constantly" for THAT LONG. They don't intrude, but that's how people's lives really are in my universe. We eat, we work, we crochet, we solve mysteries. Except for the solving mysteries part, in my case.”

“…it is the story I tend to remember rather than the crafting, so for the sake of anybody who is not au fait with the hobby, it is best to keep the parts dealing with it to the minimum. Also, it is a good idea if the subject is presented as if to beginners for the same reason!”

Friday, November 2, 2007

Cozying up to Killer Hobbies


I recently took it upon myself (along with co-blogger, Linda O. Johnston) to do a bit of research into hobby-oriented mystery series. We came up with some interesting information--in fact, we've prepared an entire discussion/presentation on the subject of hobby-oriented mysteries that we are taking "on the road" in the Southern Califonia area. If you would like us to appear at your book club, library, bookstore or discussion group, please contact one of us through our web sites. (We can also teleconference in to groups that meet in other locations).


But here's a little preview of some of what we talk about:


What’s a “hobbyist’s” cozy mystery?

· By a conservative estimate, about 60-65% of Berkley/NAL Prime Crime imprints are based on hobbies.

· Most cozies are geared toward a female audience.

· The story stars an amateur sleuth, usually a well-educated female.

· Her life experiences have given her special skills that she uses in the course of solving a crime.

· Her hobby can be very diverse (scrap booker, oenophile, B&B owner, art collector, quilting).

· The location of the story is usually a small town or confined environment. This makes it believable that all the residents know each other.

· She usually has friends, relationships, or family that can get her “uncozy” police procedural information (autopsy results, investigation updates).

· Most cozies are series.

· Most of the characters in the story are fairly likable, often quirky.

· Cozies are “kinder, gentler” stories—no overt violence or overt sex (okay, well, except for my series, the Fat City Mysteries. There you get a lot of sex and violence!).

· The story is fast-paced, with lots of red herrings.

· Often, two people die before the book ends, both offstage. The first murder often takes place before the story opens. The connection between the two people is what helps the sleuth solve the crime. She is able to make that connection in a way the police fail to.

(One more disclaimer about DYING TO BE THIN—it shows the murder victims splat on the page. I think I have a few uncozy "bones" as a writer!)

What are the current trends in cozy mysteries?

The current trend is to make cozies “educational” and include bonus information, such as patterns, diet tips, or recipes.

For example, DYING TO BE THIN has diet tips at the beginning of each chapter, like the following one:

There’s an old saying: Scratch a depression, and you’ll find an anger. Well, scratch an overweight woman, and you may find an angry one underneath. Many of us eat to repress angry feelings—over a rotten childhood, over a chintzy news budget that doesn’t cover wardrobe expenses…you name it, we’ve got plenty to be angry about. Learn to express anger in a healthy, assertive way. Which doesn’t include diving into a pint of Chunky Monkey.

—From The Little Book of Fat-busters by Mimi Morgan
What about you? Are there things about hobby-oriented cozy mysteries that particularly attract you? Are there things you wish were different about the stories? We'd really love to hear your feedback. Best, Kathryn

Friday, October 26, 2007

An ill wind, and then...


From the moment we heard the Santa Anas would blow at hurricane-force levels, we knew what was coming.


And still, the onset of the first fast-moving, rampaging firestorm came as a shock to the community, because it hit the sector of our society that is usually the most privileged and protected—Malibu. I heard about the fires when I clicked on the television news that morning at nine a.m. I immediately called my best friend from college, who lives on the beach in Malibu. Turned out she had no idea there was a major fire going on, because her power was out.


I gave her updates from the reports on CNN, and told her to pack up her most important items. But like any good Malibu-ite (Malibuan?), she already had everything organized, the same way Californians learn to keep an "earthquake survival kit" tucked away in some dusty corner of their garages.


I kept hearing local reports that people were trying to get into Malibu, not leaving. I remembered my friend who had no clue that a disaster was racing down a canyon toward her house. Her church had already been destroyed, and it was directly across the street from her son's school.


And so, like the former journalist that I am, I called the CNN news tip line and told them that power was down in some areas of Malibu, and suggested that perhaps people who had friends in the area should call them on their landlines, which still seemed to be working. The CNN tip-taker was very nice and took a lot of notes, but I never saw the tip come over the news that friends should call their friends and family in the area to roust them out.


That day ushered in a strange, surreal week in Los Angeles. We woke up each morning to discover a fine layer of ash—like dust in the attic—settled over cars and surfaces. The skies seemed permanently overcast, but from smoke, not clouds. It became slightly irritating to breathe, no matter where you were. People all around me were coughing more. We had spectacular, firestorm-fueled sunsets that were even more beautiful than our worst pollution-caused sunsets. In some places in Southern California, you could stare directly at the sun, because it had diminished into a swollen, tangerine orb behind the layers of smoke.


My Malibu friend seemed quite relaxed about the flames that were racing her way. She even met me for lunch Monday afternoon—and then was turned back by police when she tried to return home. She and her family spent a couple of days as Malibu refugees, which does seem like an oxymoron.


But still, this experience hasn't soured any of us on living in California—or even in Malibu. We do have occasional impressive catastrophes here. Earthquakes, firestorms, city-wide riots, to name a few. But every other day, it's paradise here. The weather is so wonderful and consistent, you almost forget what "real" weather is. And we don't deal with the far more frequent disasters that plague other areas of the country, such as hurricanes, snowstorms, and tornadoes.


When all is said and done, I'm staying put. Everyone I know is, too.
Where you live, are there any recurring disasters that you've just learned to accept, prepare for and deal with? Do other aspects of the environment offset the occasional problems?
Life—and the book tour—continues...
I had a wonderful book signing event on Wednesday at the
B Dalton in the mall at Los Angeles City Hall. The bookseller, Candace Davis, set up a nice table—complete with a vase of flowers!—and I sold lots of books. I was impressed by how many men bought the book. But that was encouraging--I think diet, exercise, humor and murder mysteries is a combination that will interest many readers in America, not just women.
On Saturday, I spoke to a nice-sized crowd at Mysteries To Die For in Thousand Oaks. The staff and Heidi made me feel very welcome. I recruited a good friend of mine who once attended the same diet clinic as me in Durham, North Carolina (DYING TO BE THIN is set in a fictional diet clinic, AKA fat farm). We regaled the crowd with stories about how the real diet doctors would roam the town, tracking down and busting people who were cheating on the program.
Whenever a diet doctor entered the building, the cheating dieters would flee--running for the ladies room, exits, wherever we could find to take cover.
Ah, those were some good times.


Friday, October 5, 2007

Notes from the road: launch week for DYING TO BE THIN


On Tuesday, DYING TO BE THIN began appearing in bookstores everywhere.

Launch day began with a bang—early Tuesday morning I appeared on regional radio, AM 1290 KZSB in Santa Barbara, which gets distributed all over the world. My host was the genial Baron Ron Herron, who started off the interview by making me laugh with a discussion about Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa and his affair with a Telemundo TV reporter (who, when last heard from, had been exiled to Riverside—which is kind of like Siberia, only hotter).

From there, we went on to talk about my book, and we touched on the next installment in The Fat Series Mysteries series, A KILLER WORKOUT.

On Wednesday, I visited AdviceRadio.com with host Megan Willingham. Megan is a truly wonderful interviewer. She has a warm, intime interviewing style, and asked many thought-provoking questions. She’s the kind of interviewer who makes you want to confess all your secrets! We were laughing together like a couple of old friends after just a few minutes on the air. I really enjoyed the hour. You can listen to the podcast this week at:

http://www.adrenalineradio.com/podcast/

(Click Writers).

Later that day, bearing cookies in hand, I started visiting bookstores to sign stock. The staff at my local Borders bookstore rewarded me by moving my books from the shelf to the table in the front of the store, where the featured releases are. I call it the Power of Cookie Persuasion!

This weekend, on Saturday, I’ll be appearing with fellow blogger Linda O. Johnston at Mysterious Galaxy bookstore in San Diego. We’ll be interviewing each other and talking about the cozy mystery genre.

On Sunday, October 7th, at 3 p.m., I’ll be giving a talk at the San Diego Public Library. I’m billing the talk “From Daydream to Reality: one writer’s journey to publication.” But in reality, we’ll be talking about anything and everything when it comes to writing. Hope to see you there!

Friday, September 28, 2007

Next week: Blast-off for DYING TO BE THIN!












So, the official launch for DYING TO BE THIN is Tuesday, October second! Starting Tuesday, you should be able to find it at a bookseller near you (or, as always, you can order it online at http://www.barnesandnoble.com/, http://www.walmart.com/, http://www.amazon.com/, and other online booksellers.)

DYING TO BE THIN tells the story of Kate Gallagher, a spunky, slightly chunky TV news producer-turned-sleuth.Kate’s often been told that she has the “face” for TV—it’s her body she needs to work on. So when she gets dumped by her boyfriend and laid off from her TV producer’s job in the same week, she decides to trade in her Whoopie Pies for thinner thighs, and she heads down to Durham, North Carolina to enroll in an exclusive diet clinic (read: fat farm).

After just one day at the Hoffman Diet Clinic, Kate is about ready to sell her soul for a white mocha with a coffee cake chaser. She’s working free-lance on an Extreme Makeover story—starring herself—while enduring a diet of petrified fruit, tasteless gruel, sunrise walks, and loony-tunes neighbors.

But when the clinic’s head diet doctor turns up—dead—with a pair of fondue forks where his eyes should be, Kate totally loses her appetite. And now that the menu features murder, she realizes—she has a breaking story on her hands.

You can find out more about the series and read the first chapter of DYING TO BE THIN at my web site: http://www.kathrynlilley.com/

Okay, because I can’t wait, here’s a preview:

A Big Fat Mess

I began to wonder whether I’d made a colossal mistake by plunking down my severance pay a down payment for this program. What kind of looney tunes place is this?

“Is torture by food du jour included in our two K a week?” I whispered to Evelyn.

She shrugged. “He’s just showing us that we have to change our eating ways,” she said. “Dr. Hoffman says we fatties have to totally reprogram our brains.”

Reprogram sounded like a cult term. Hopefully they didn’t serve Diet Kool-Aid in the dining room. Cult or no, I was stuck with this place now. Durham’s Channel Twelve was expecting me to produce my weight loss series here. Maybe I could turn the whole assignment into an expose. That’d be a much more interesting story than watching my thighs disappear…

Breaking News!

Sunday, September 30, 2007 West Hollywood Book Festival. Look for Kathryn at the Sisters in Crime Los Angeles booth, 2:00 to 3:00.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007 Tuesday, approximately 8.45 AM PDTAM 1290 KZSB S anta Barbara

Wednesday, October 3, 2007 AdviceRadio.com Writers, Authors, n' More with Megan Willingham, 5 PM PDT

Friday, September 21, 2007

How long did did happily-ever-after last for Cinderella?



This week, I’ve been thinking about Cinderella.

I’ve been thinking about her a lot, wondering how long she stayed "happy" after she landed the Prince and the castle? Was it eternal bliss, or did she eventually go back to worrying about more mundane matters, like pesky royal in-laws, or her pecking order at court? In a real-life example, Princess Diana certainly showed us that sometimes there's nada happily ever after.

By way of background, I should say that, of late, things have been going pretty darned well for me. Maybe not fairy-tale well, but definitely “pinch me—is it real?” kind-of-well.

Here’s a partial list of my current blessings:

My family is healthy and happy (this one has to come first on anyone’s list).
I have several great friends.
I have a new mystery series coming out.
I was recently gifted with a second house, a killer sports car, and some enviable bling.

Life, as they say, is good.

So you’d think that I’d be wandering around the house all the time with a big, goofy grin plastered across my face.

Instead, I find myself scrabbling for things to worry about. Like, how do I guarantee that my second book will surpass the first? Is my college-age daughter locking her doors at night? When is the Big One going to strike California (and what’s the deductible on my earthquake insurance?).

When nothing else works, I’ll watch CNN and fret about global warming, wondering if I should have eschewed my nice little Z4 for an earth-friendlier Prius.

I once read about a study that found that people have a default level of happiness—or unhappiness, whichever applies. This study posited that, long term, a change in an individual’s life circumstances is irrelevant to his or her “happiness” level. Oh, their moods will have ups and downs, depending on unknown and unpredictable factors such as a sudden trauma, or winning the Lotto. But according to this study, almost no matter what happens, most people eventually return to their original state of happiness. I recall the researcher saying that even someone hit by a devastating injury, such as Chris Reeve, probably eventually regained a semblance of his original level of happiness.

That must be why my mind is foraging for things to feel down about: life has removed some of its former obstacles, and somewhere in my brain, a gray cell is itching to even up the score. But from now on, whenever it does that, I’m just going to shout it down. Down, avenging brain cell! Down!

One reassuring thing: Cinderella seemed happy as a person, even before she met the Prince (at least, she was in the Disney version of the story). So odds are that this particular couple did live happily, ever after.

Anyway, that’s the fairy tale.

What about you? Do you have a “level set” of happiness (or unhappiness) that you eventually return to, no matter what brickbats or bouquets life throws your way?

Guilty pleasure of the week: The Biggest Loser

As a former fattie (okay, granted—I still have a ways to go—but at least I’m no longer morbidly obese), I experience a vicarious thrill whenever I watch Bravo TV’s The Biggest Loser.

As I watch a three-hundred person lug to the top of a seven-story tower, huffing every step of the way, a part of me cringes inside, thinking, “How can they put themselves out there like that?” But a part of me cheers them on, and gets caught up in the suspense as they step onto that scale at the end of the week to find out which team lost the most weight.

Confession time

Last year, when the producers of The Biggest Loser tempted the show’s dieters with a malevolent tower of cupcakes, I wanted to throw my diet tools in their general direction, to exact some payback.

So…?

So here’s the question: why am I so drawn to this show? I think it’s because it amplifies the everyday drama of my bathroom scale—Am I up? Am I down? Am I winning the battle? Losing?—writ large. Writ very large.

Fat people, it turns out, are the stuff of prime-time drama. And if you don’t believe me, I’ll sign off with a quote from no less an authority than The Bard himself:

Let me have men about me that are fat,

Sleek-headed men, and such as sleep o’ nights: Yond Cassius has a lean and hungry look;
He thinks too much: such men are dangerous.

On the other hand, I suspect that Cassius was a much more dramatic character than the “men…that are fat.”

Food for thought.

Friday, September 14, 2007

And now let's go—live!—to a Zombie Gerbil from Outer Space



So I'm looking over my upcoming book tour schedule for DYING TO BE THIN, which launches on October second. The tour includes several highlights that I’m especially thrilled about, including some media appearances (for updates, see my web site.)

Among other places, I’ll be appearing on a morning television show.

That interview will be the first time I’ve set foot inside a TV studio in more than twenty years. And for me, it may prove to be a bittersweet moment.

First, a bit of background:

Twenty-plus years ago, I graduated from Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. During my stint at the J School, I concentrated in broadcasting. My dream was to become a television reporter, and perhaps eventually an anchor.
But my academic advisor soon informed me, in no uncertain terms, that to have a career on camera, I’d have to lose weight.

I’d have to lose a lot of weight. At two-hundred-plus pounds, I needed to lose approximately one-half of myself.

This was a tall order, especially in the days before laparoscopic surgery and stomach rings.

To remediate my excess adipose situation, after graduation I packed up my TR6 and sallied south to Durham, North Carolina, the self-proclaimed “Diet Capital of the World.” There, I enrolled in a residential diet clinic (read: fat farm). Nine hungry months later, I left Durham, tipping the scales at 114 pounds. (At five foot five, I figured even TV news would be satisfied with that three-digit number.) Armed with a new designer wardrobe, I soon landed a reporting internship, and later a full-time job, at a station in South Carolina.

But I quickly discovered that the reality of TV news reporting was far different than I’d imagined. The job involved crazy hours (no problem for me), and tons of stress (some problem for me). To my dismay, I also discovered that I suffered from a bit of camera shyness.

Doing live shots was especially challenging. When you do a live shot, you stand there in front of the camera, holding a microphone, addressing hundreds of thousands of people—without a script. To make things worse, you also have a disembodied voice (the studio producer) yakking at you through an earpiece.

Accomplished professionals in TV-News land, like Anderson Cooper and Katie Couric, make live television look easy.

Trust me, it’s not.

There’s a scene in DYING TO BE THIN that addresses the peculiar challenges of live shots:

In this scene, my protagonist, Kate Gallagher, has just finished her first live shot. It’s gone well, and she’s been congratulated by the cameraman:

“Thanks, Reggie,” I said, removing my earpiece. I was riding a huge surge of relief, a high, really, that my maiden live shot had gone so smoothly. I’ve seen first-time live shots go horribly wrong—the reporters get spacey, or they forget what they’re supposed to say entirely and freeze up in front of the camera the way a hairy-footed gerbil gets hypnotized by a cobra.”

True confession time—that was my first live shot I was describing in the book. I was about as polished as a zombie gerbil from outer space.

I eventually recovered from that rough start, and improved. But along the way, I learned that television news wasn’t the right career for me. Nowadays, I’m much happier being ensconced behind the word processor, spinning out stories that turn out just the way I want them to.

To paraphrase Dirty Harry, “A woman’s got to know her limitations.”

But I’m thrilled to get the chance to go back on television as a guest. A studio guest doesn’t have all the pressure of dealing with where the cameras are, or how many seconds are left before the break, or a producer who’s talking through her earpiece.

Guests can just relax, smile, and be themselves.

Ahh…sounds like the perfect assignment for me.

Friday, September 7, 2007

Getting the lard out


This week brought about a sea change in my approach to personal fitness.

Prompted by last week’s faux health scare, I’ve done a lot of soul searching. The upshot is that I’ve taken charge—really taken charge, this time—of my fitness goals. And I’m not just talking about losing weight—I’m talking cardiovascular health, muscular flexibility, and any other health index that I can impact favorably with diet and exercise.

To brainstorm a plan of action, last Friday I met with my family doctor. After taking my vital readings, he fixed me with his best Stern Doctor’s-eye, then socked it to me with some strict lifestyle prescriptions.

To achieve a decent level of fitness (not to mention to achieve a minimal level of eye-candy appeal), he told me that I must do the following:
  • Rid my larder of any foods that contain hydrogenated oils, high fructose corn syrup, and anything containing enriched (nouns). Those ingredients, it turns out, are serial killers of cardiovascular health.

    Okay, I thought. Granted. Except—do you know how hard that is? Practically everything in my cupboards contains those ingredients. Especially my beloved, convenient meals-in-a-box. You know, the ones where you just add chicken or beef, stir in a cup of water, and—voila! Dinner for four.

    Turns out those box-meal babies are loaded with artery-clogging hydrogenated oils. Without those culinary fallbacks, I might—gasp—actually have to cook! How can I be expected to cook on deadline?

  • Walk thirty minutes a day. Every day, up and down steep hills, or their equivalent on a treadmill.

    I really hate this one. ‘Nuff said.

  • Work out with weight resistance.

    I dusted off the free weights that have been rusting under my bed, and started alternating upper body and lower body workout days, using Body for Life by Bill Phillips as a guideline. There hasn’t been a dramatic transformation yet, but it does seem slightly easier to carry a 10-pound bag of kitty litter in from the car.

  • Take up a stress-relieving pastime, like Yoga.

    Here’s the scoop on me and Yoga—whenever I pretzel my limbs into an Awkward Chair Pose, I have to combat an overwhelming urge to burst into giggles. All right, then—sheesh—maybe I’ll try Tai Chi. But wait—some Falun Gong practitioners hang out on the beach where I walk every morning. Maybe I can join forces with them, and become a fellow Enemy Number One of the Chinese Communist Party. At the very least, becoming a political cause célèbre would keep me from dissolving into a gigglefest every time I do my Uranus poses, or whatever-the-heck they call them.


High points of the week

After just a week on my new regimen, I’ve noticed some encouraging results:
  • I feel a surge of new energy.

  • My system has become more regular (I’ll spare you anything further on that).

  • I feet…lighter. Substantially lighter, even though I lost only a pound.

  • I feel less stress.

  • My blood pressure has gone down.

  • I feel more present in my body (don’t ask me what the heck that means. But it feels good).


Low point of the week

On Sunday around noon, I was overwhelmed by a sudden, sharp craving for a hot dog. I piled into my TR6 and drove up and down PCH until I found a place called Waldo’s Woofers, whereupon I downed Waldo’s Barkin’ Dog Special, a twelve-inch hot dog laden with chili, onion, and mustard. It was as if my system was experiencing nitrate withdrawal, and demanded a fix.

I sincerely regret that.

Guilty pleasure of the week

Am I the last person on the planet to discover Bravo’s TV series called Work Out, starring Jackie Warner? She’s a personal trainer who runs a gym called Skylab in Beverly Hills. Skylab is a fitness camp where you can immerse yourself in a regimen of fitness and nutrition. If only I were within reasonable driving distance of that gym, I would sign up!

Their web site is:
http://www.bravotv.com/Work_Out/index.shtml


Go forth this week, and get fit!

Friday, August 17, 2007

She ain’t heavy—she’s Venus, dammit!




Recently, one of my beta readers demanded to know how my book’s protagonist, Kate Gallagher, can attract men so easily, even though she is—to quote Beta—“stout.”

As described in the books, Kate is five foot five and a hundred and fifty-five pounds. Is she trying to lose weight? Yes. Is she unattractive? Not in the least. In fact, she’s a traditional Irish beauty, with wavy auburn hair, sculptured cheekbones, and an hourglass figure.

But Beta kept complaining about how “portly” she is. He had trouble believing that she could attract a high-powered boyfriend.

After several go-rounds, I finally told Beta—who is an older gentleman—that it is quite possible for someone of Kate’s height and weight to attract a desirable partner. “I speak from personal experience,” I told him.

“But you’re thin,” he said to me. “That doesn’t count.”

I stared at him, then burst into laughter. “I’m the same height as Kate, and I weigh more than she does,” I said.

Beta was genuinely shocked. “I had no idea,” he whispered, as if I’d just revealed that I was harboring the Ebola virus.

The whole discussion got me wondering—is this gentleman just exceptionally uninformed about what women-of-a-certain weight actually look like, or is there something else going on?

As a society, perhaps we’re simply not used to seeing average-weight women—women who are not obese, but who are definitely not thin—presented as sexual beings.

In films, literature and the media, there don’t seem to be very many examples to choose from.

One heavy woman character (if you can call her “heavy”) who was also sexual, was Bridget Jones. She was wildly popular—especially with women readers.

Back when the movie came out, I recall attending a screening in Hollywood. When Renee Zellweger, who played Bridget Jones, first appeared onscreen, there was a audible gasp from the audience. The Hollywood wives and moguls recoiled as they got their first glimpse of the actress, who’d gained weight for the role.

Like my gentleman reader, they were shocked. And disgusted.

That gasp notwithstanding, I think that there are many heavier women out there who are gorgeous, and who know it. They have no problem attracting men. But they don’t see themselves accurately reflected in popular media. And they’d like to.

Hmmm….do I hear “target audience”?

Friday, August 10, 2007

Word by word



So, I’m deep in the throes of writing my second book in the Fat City Mystery series, which is titled A KILLER WORKOUT.

I’m sure each writer is different, but during the writing process I’m prone to mood swings. I experience creative highs, followed by troughs of despair. Mid-cycle, there’s often a disturbing echo of Elizabeth Kubler Ross’s Five Stages of Death.

Here’s an example of one of my cycles:

1. Shock, Denial: "The deadline cannot be this short. It took me two years to write Book One. I’m expected to write Book Two in ten months? That can’t be right—someone must have torn a page out of the calendar."

2. Exhilaration, Self-delusion: "I’m the Next Great American Novelist. Every word I tap into Prose Pro is worth its weight in diamonds. I’m a Writing Phenom! Bwah-ahh-ahh-hh!”

3. Bargaining, Depression (For me, this strikes at approximately page 200. And then repeats): “Just let me get to the next page without the plot bogging down or developing a fatal flaw. Please.”

4. More Depression, Anger: “I cannot believe I set up this secondary character like this. I’m gonna have to go all the way back to the beginning and tear sh*t up.”

5. Serenity, Dollop of Happiness (upon rereading what I wrote yesterday): “Hey. This is okay. This is even sort of…good. Hallelujah! On to the next page.”

To regulate both ends of my bipolar swings, I keep a stack of books about writing by my elbow. These books function for me kind of like literary Prozac. When I’m riding a high, they remind me how far I have to go to achieve perfection. When I’m in a funk over a flat line or paragraph, they’re full of useful tips and guidelines for making things better.

Here are the books on writing that are currently keeping me sane:

On Writing, by Stephen King

Natch. Stephen King is the master of writing popular fiction. I loved seeing the example of how he edited his own work. But even more than the writing advice, it’s Stephen King’s voice that I find soothing. Just knowing there’s a writer like him in the world gives me hope.

Don’t Murder Your Mystery, by Chris Roerden

The author walks you through the most frequent “manuscript killers,” and tells you how to fix them. There are great examples by authors of how to put all the advice into practice. Recently, I lent my copy of the book to a friend. After a week, I was in such a state of withdrawal that I demanded it back.

Bird by bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life, by Anne Lamott

When I first started to dare let myself dream of becoming a novelist, Lamott’s book inspired me to try. When I stumble, I reread this book for a shot of hope.

What about you? Do you experience “cycles” while writing? How do you cope?

Friday, August 3, 2007

Obesity's Typhoid Mary


Recently, researchers came out with a study that indicated that obesity is a socially communicable disease.

When a newly obese person gains seventeen pounds, according to this study, the studied-person’s friend gains five pounds.

Humph. That study is really annoying.

Allow me to present a counter-argument for the defense.

The information that I will share with you now should put this study’s results to rest, forevermore. (Admittedly, this data is based on my own anecdotal evidence. So, empiricists, I ain’t talkin’ to you, you got that?)

From time to time over the course of my life, I have been overweight. You could even say that I’ve been significantly overweight during certain periods. Like, during the 1980’s. And the 1990’s. And portions of the new millennium.

(Because I have a creative bone in my body, I’ve been able to make lemonade out of this lemon in life. For example, my experiences led me to create the Fat City Mysteries and DYING TO BE THIN, which debuts on October 2nd, 2007.)

But, have I been a Typhoid Mary of Obesity, in terms of my impact within my circle of friends?

No.

My best friends date back to my college years. As a group, they would be rated as “normal weight to thin,” according to the Ediets rating system. A couple of them might even be considered to be verging on the anorexic (especially those friends who reside on the West Side of New York).

My knowing these fine ladies hasn’t added an ounce to their thighs, nor has it reduced the readout of my weekly weigh-in at Weight Watchers. There is no discernible “friend effect.” I wish, wish, wish there were. If you could get thinner by hanging out with skinny people, I’d be dogging every social X-ray on the planet, vying to become their new best friend. You say you’re an addict? No problem. Homeless? Nada problemo. If you’re thin, you’re in.

To be fair, I have to admit that my very best friend in the world does have a slight weight problem. More than slight, actually. She’s morbidly obese. But am I to blame for her not losing weight? Or vice versa? I think not.

On the other hand, when we’re at dinner and talking about clothes shopping, I do reassure myself that as long as I can shop at Banana Republic, and not at Lane Bryant, I must be okay. Maybe that self-reassurance does allow me to carry the odd pound or two in excess of what I’d feel comfortable with if my dining-mate shopped at the 3-5-9 store.

Bottom line is, when you’re dining with your best bud at Hamburger Hamlet and you’re eying the Brownie Mountain on the dessert menu, you just don’t want to think about it, yanno?

So maybe that study was right, after all.

But still, it's really annoying.